Larry’s Retirement

1:40am

To celebrate my sudden retirement from DearCupid.org, I present you an excerpt from Larry Flynt:

“…ask yourself the question, what is more obscene: sex or war?” In the movie, Woody Harrelson, as Flynt, explains that murder is illegal, but if you take a picture of it you may get your name in Time Magazine or maybe win a Pulitzer Prize. However, he continues, sex is legal, but if you take a picture of that act, you can go to jail. The question of which is more obscene is even more arresting considering the consequences of each.


As with my glorious ability to look into the future, and to answer Ariel’s question, “WHY LI?!?! WHY?!?!?!” Well, I’ve tried retiring once half a year ago, but that was really just to reflect on my mistakes at the time. This time around, Eddie made me think of something. I quote a line in his email to me: “I wouldn’t want to be responsible for sending someone over the edge. I’m noticing now the site is becoming more popular with the young kids. I’m not sure I like that as I don’t like to make suggestions to minors about important issues.

I know I can control myself mostly, but sometimes, my bluntness might actually be more harmful than good. When I was a teenager, I had to look out for myself, though my friends were there, I never relied on them for emotional support, that is until Jonathan came along and actively supported me on a few occasions. However, most teenagers aren’t nearly as self-reliant in terms of being internally strong as I was. Thus, I do not want to contribute to their stress further. Yes, what I say should actually help them, but a lot of them most likely will never understand until they have gone through more experiences in life.

DearCupid.org is a great place to seek help, as broad as its aunties and uncles may be. My time as The Devils’ Advocate should have passed already. I’m still wondering on how Andrew did not kick me out long ago. It’s really uncanny sometimes.

Did Ms. Anti-Martini have an influence in this decision? Somewhat. Sometimes, my sarcasm can get a bit too far, and belittling can occur. I didn’t mean to counter-attack her with such force, even though I felt she took on a very narrow standpoint. Though I am sick of that debate, the real cause was my ending interactions with her. I know some of my ‘fans’ actually enjoy the things I input and say, but DC is supposed to help people and not ridicule them. Honestly, I wish there is a self-delete option on the site – disappear quietly, you know?

So ends the era of Martini @ DearCupid.org. Of course, I still hope that those who have come here from DC would still visit me here from time to time. 8]

At least here, I can be as sarcastic and as blunt as I want to be without fear that I may cause some young-un to go hang him or herself. Mhmm… 8]

As a humorous bit, check this out – at 6 minutes, check out what he’s saying about Bush. Very clever! 8]

2:00am

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Ariel
Ariel
2006-12-06 12:13 pm

Hey Li, I can’t believe that you are letting ms anti-porn get under your skin like that.Did you not notice you are the only uncle on dc that is not afraid to loose points/popularity by saying what he thinks.I admire you for that.I thought about ms anti-porn and thought she has a serious problem in life and that she needs councelling.She is obsessive with child abuse,it makes you wonder if she was not abused.And as for eddie’s comment sending someone over the edge is crap,people who kill themselves think about it for ages and will do it because they seek… Read more »

Li
Li
2006-12-06 12:31 pm

Heh, thanks for the encouragement. 8]

Nikita
Nikita
2006-12-06 12:47 pm

Hello, im new to dear cupid and so idont know what was said about your porn comments but i wrote an answer for a woman who was worried cos her husband was using porn and i said that she shouldnt ban it and maybe even join him and my raitngs went down so i guess my answer wasnt liked. i thought my advice was good but i guess everyones different. sorry you’re retiring. i was gonna add you to my favourite uncles list!

Li
Li
2006-12-06 12:58 pm

Ariel/Nikita: I think my decision to separate myself from that place has more to do with two things: 1) I am spending WAAAYY too much time there and not really getting my work done. Seriously, sometimes it can get addicting. 2) There isn’t just one Ms. Anti-Martini there, but that isn’t the cause for my leaving. Ha! Like I would allow a few dull-eggs to influence me that way. No, it’s actually because when I read through various posts on different threads, including ones where I’ve contributed, I allow myself to step back quite far away to look at things… Read more »

Li
Li
2006-12-06 12:59 pm

As for Nikita: thanks, I’ll add you back if you already added me. Like I said above, I’ll go back there to check up on my DCmail every day, because a lot of people have come to me to ask for my help/opinion. 8]

stina
2006-12-08 11:30 am

Boo for no more DC! I saw that stupid anti-porn girl spouting off her tom douchery. I told my guy about it and he can’t seem to let things go, either. He went to school for gender and feminist studies and thought this girl was an idiot, so he had to respond. Thought you might like to read his answer… Anyway, i hope that at some point you’ll change your mind and come back to answer more questions – I enjoy reading what you have to say!! Although I do understand why you’ve decided to stay away, especially the part… Read more »

stina
2006-12-08 11:52 am

(and the part about religion, too. I feel as though people use that as a crutch because they can’t handle things themselves and/or don’t want to take responsibility for their own actions. I have a TON of things I could say about religion, but I’ll keep my rants about it off of your blog. I mainly just wanted to say that I’m totally with you on that. heh)

Li
Li
2006-12-08 3:07 pm

Hey Stina… Nice to see you here. 8] I saw your hubby’s post. Very nice. I like his objective perspective, and his past studies of it was a huge bonus. Total props to him. 8] I’ll go back there once every now and then. I really REALLY have to re-prioritize my work. I’m lagging again! [sigh] As for religion, hell, you can say whatever you want here, be vulgar and naughty, as well as tell stories on how you managed to get a monkey to mate with your evil co-worker. 8] The only rules of my blog site is that… Read more »

lostandlonely
lostandlonely
2006-12-13 3:22 pm

hey li, i’m glad you didn’t retire! i think a lot of aunties would have been sad you left for good! i enjoy reading your posts. i think you’re a very funny guy and helpful too! so keep up the good work!

Li
Li
2006-12-13 3:32 pm

Sad?!? [laughs] I wouldn’t go so far as say they would be sad. 8D Hmmm… Well, I have to keep my project schedules in check cuz I was spending way too much time there… 8/

cappucino
cappucino
2006-12-21 12:37 pm

I have been following dc quitely for the last 12 months. I do not post much, just read, learn. listen to some comments and disregard others. You were my favourite augony uncle, your opinions stick, because they are unpredictable, fresh, honest and very clever. I still chew over them, along with my bowl of cornflakes in the morning. It is surprising how one can feel that someone becomes a friend, just from reading a website, which is why I have to agree that I am also sad to see you go.

Li
Li
2006-12-21 3:40 pm

Ah well… Yeah. There has been many times I want to leave permanently, but then people start flooding my emails and stuff about things and I end up back there anyway. It’s gross really. Reasons for leaving is kind of like, not sure to how to explain… 8/

But yeah… 8/