- Sexual Maturity
- Pro-Life VS Pro-Choice
- Cheating is breaking the rules of a relationship
I will at times, make generalizations about people who behave a certain way, but it doesn’t apply to 100% of all people on the planet specific to that generalization. It only applies to the people that fit that generalization and event then, it primarily applies to the people I’ve communicated with as a collective. For example, I could say, “Feminists often times try to diminish the words of anyone that counter their generalizations about men being a certain way.” In this scenario, it seems like I am speaking about all feminists, but I am actually speaking about the feminists I have encountered, that behave that way. So if you’re a feminist and you don’t make vast generalizations about men, then clearly, this doesn’t apply to you. Just as if I said, “Americans are some of the dumbest people I know.” If you’re offended and feel you need to tell me you have ten degrees in sciences, can speak twenty languages fluently, and make more money than all thirty generations of my family combined, great! Then clearly, my generalization didn’t apply to you. So why are you so angry at me? 😉
Indeed, I could use the word “some”, but I don’t need to. This blog is about my thoughts and feelings. If you do not take the time to read my blog entries in context to my character, then make angry and/or sarcastic assumptions about me, then you deserve to eat your own shit. 😉
2. Sexual Maturity
This blog was established April 1st, 2006, after a romantic relationship had gone bad. I needed a place to vent. In the process of exposing my life, I had also included explicit sexual details of my desires, experiences and comedic stories. Of course, the lewdness is kept to a minimal, but you’re still going to see Rated M related posts. You might even get a glimpse of sexually charged images, without full-on nudity, because my host doesn’t allow that sort of thing. Regardless, you will of course have the option to read those blog posts, but at the same time, must be aware that these are my thoughts and experiences. You don’t have to like them or agree with them, but that’s your problem. I’m not asking you to partake in my ideas and fantasies. I am only sharing. So this means you will need to have the maturity to understand that not everyone shares your idea what sex, intimacy, and romance is. Just as I won’t enforce my ideas onto you. The most I will do is give guidance and perhaps even give my personal, non-objective opinion about certain things. Ultimately, my ideals are still my own. If you don’t share and accept them, then of course, you’re entitled to have your own principles. No one is wrong here. We’re just different.
3. Pro-Life VS Pro-Choice
I am pro-choice in the sense that I believe it is the woman’s absolute right to do what she feels is best for herself. It is up to her to define whether the fetus inside of her is something she wants to bring out into this world, or not. It is not up to other people. Until that fetus is born, it is a part of the woman’s body. Her body, her choice. Pro-lifers should stop pretending they really care about life, when they clearly only care about the birth of a fetus and nothing after that.
Pro-lifers piss me off, because the majority of them call themselves pro-life, but have zero empathy for the actual livelihoods of people in need. The majority of pro-lifers don’t care about the poor, the homeless, the sick, and the disabled. If they are truly pro-life, then they would do their best to make sure the government offset hardships for the poor, to give homeless people a chance to improve their lives, to make universal health care a thing, to provide access points for the disabled. Most pro-lifers are in fact, pro-birthers. They only care about their personal interpretation of what an ‘unborn child’ is. They see it as a harmless child that is being murdered. Yet, they don’t give a rat’s ass what happens to these children after they are born.
I find that the vast majority of pro-choicers are in fact pro-life, because the vast majority of pro-choicers believe in making sure the government help the poor, the disabled, the homeless, and to provide universal health care which would care for the livelihood of all people who otherwise won’t be able to properly afford them. Wouldn’t it make sense for pro-lifers to want universal health care, since it is obviously the most sensible life-giving system for the millions that need it? What is incredibly absurd about most pro-lifers is that they are very pro-guns, very pro-open-carry, very pro-military, very pro-religious indoctrination, very pro-controlling women’s reproductive rights, very pro-abstinence ‘education’, very anti-climate change, very anti-mask, very anti-vaccination, and very anti-science. It’s as if their ‘pro-life’ stance is as full of shit as believing themselves as Christians. True Christians WANT to help other people. True Christians don’t call themselves pro-lifers and then hypocritically lead lives countering everything that could make life better for everyone as a whole. These hypocritical assholes make me sick.
As I’ve said on numerous occasions, dating is not about trying to shape a person to fill in what you believe is ‘The One’. Dating should be about you exposing yourself to the possibilities out there, which means you shouldn’t be dating one person at a time. You should be dating multiple people at a time. Only then, will you be able to understand what relationship dynamics work the best for you, but more than that, it will allow you expand your experiences. Which in turn will help you filter out the things that work and the things that don’t. It will help evolve you, allow you different perspectives, give you a taste of what you otherwise might not have considered doing. At the end of it all, you will gradually get a sense of who you are as an individual, what you need, and how to achieve them. If someone comes along, great, then they are possibly good for you for that time period of your life. If they evolve with you, even better. Then at least, you know would might have found The One.
People often times put too much emphasize on the idea that dating is about settling down with one person. Which can be quite an emotional burden. You’re forced to live a certain way, with a ticking timer, making you feel you need to find someone as soon as possible. Alas, dating is just a part of your existence. You shouldn’t look at it as a means to an end. Instead, you should look at it as a gateway that branches off into other aspects of your life. Dating is a doorway into another phase of existence. It isn’t a tunnel that leads to a room with small locked windows.
5. Cheating is breaking the rules of a relationship
I am of the mind that once you get comfortable with someone enough, you should tell them what you expect from a future committed relationship. At this point, all those involved should contribute what their relationship standards are like, and what those rules should be. Don’t leave it up to the unsaid rules of common society to dictate those rules. It could very well be, that a partner is against anyone eating raw celery on Fridays. No one would expect that as a rule right? As silly as that may be, it’s better to communicate properly and openly, than to expect that everyone adhere to the defaults.
For example, my wife and I can freely flirt with other people, so long as we don’t lead people to believe sex is inevitable. My wife and I can also engage in various sex acts with some of our friends. However, this is only for people that either of us has already approved of. If either of us engaged in a sex act with someone neither of us approved of, then that would be breaking the rules of our relationship. Hence, cheating.