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Where does “my body, my rules” start and end?

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Erin Micklow who is an alt-model of sorts, is absolutely stunning. Recently, she was creating some photos of herself on a beach, and some dude jerked himself off while watching her from behind a boulder. Erin made a point, “My body, my rules” <– I am in 100% agreement with this, as I always use this when explaining consent.

However, what I disagreed with, was that “her body, her rules” does not extend outside of her personal space in a public space. If some fucktard is jerking off in public, while you’re photographing yourself with sexual overtones in a public space, then what do you expect? Don’t get me wrong. What that guy did was disrespectful towards Erin, but they were both in public and he wasn’t in her personal space. Where does “my body, my rules” start and end, when in a public space beyond the boundaries of her personal space?

For example, if a conservative religious person walked into view of her, and felt strongly offended by her sexually-charged photo shoot where she is topless, does that conservative person have a right to tell her to cover herself up, because it offends them in this shared public space? More than likely, Erin will tell them to fuck off, because they’re out in public and it’s her body, her rules. However, what about the conservative person’s body and rules? As a conservative person, they don’t want to see her naked body. Wouldn’t it be a breach of their enjoyment in a public space?

I am not defending the guy jerking himself off while in the near distance of Erin, who was taking sexy photos of herself. I am asking how far does “my body, my rules” extend? Does it extend 20 feet? 20 metres? 200 metres? 2 kilometres? Does it extend to the point where she can’t see people jerking off to her, but is jerking off to her? Is the reason why she feels sexually harassed, was because she saw the guy jerking himself? What if he was hiding in a tent with a peep hole? What if he was up on a tower, 100 feet away with a binocular? What if he was in his own hotel room with a spotting scope, half a kilometre away?

Basically, where does “my body, my rules” start and end?

While I am 100% in agreement that she shouldn’t have to feel harassed in any situation, that people should be respectful in any situation, ultimately, she was on public land and he wasn’t in her personal space.

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Concepts from Leemanism has as little filtering as possible. These concepts are not reflected in the people I value and are associated with. People who accept me, adhere to the parts where we are compatible and tolerate the parts where we are not. So however people perceive me to be, ultimately it obviously doesn't mean the people I mention in this blog are the same as me. It means it's possible they are similar or the same, as well as different than me. It is highly unusual for people to be completely compatible with each other. It is also highly unusual for people to be fully supportive of each other, even if they say they do.

Common society expects self-respect to be a concept you enforce on yourself, while solely adhering to what common society dictates as being right. However, self-respect in fact, is doing what pleases you, while not permitting others to disrespect you, and when they do, you cut them out of your life. Don't let common society gaslight you into believing the self-respect you have for yourself should be dictated by common society's views on morality. Self-respect is the individual's right to live as they desire - not what common society deems as acceptable. Too often, people succumb to the weight of the world, dismissing their individual value, to try to fit in and be accepted. If you are the type of person who tries to fit in with common society, under the fantasy you are also an unique 'weird' person of your own thoughts, then I dare say, you're delusional. Everyone says they rather be weird, but when challenged, they retreat back into their social shells, doing everything they can to deflect self accountability.

That's utterly boring.

However, at the same time, I also understand that some people must do what they must do to protect themselves, before the law of the land and before common society try to lynch them for what they are. Even if your ideals may be right, society will more often than not, deem you wrong - even most of your friends may side with society, than protect you.

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