So I’m toiling away on my current project and finally decided to take a brief break before continuing. I thought about what Emma asked during the summer and think I can give a clear answer now.
The question was in her words, “Why wouldn’t you treat your girlfriend like a princess if you were to have a long term relationship with her?” The theme mind you was what I told her before she asked me that. I told her that there are two most likely stances I would take if I am in a relationship with someone intimately. One of the stances would be if I can feel that my relationship from the beginning is mainly about play, bursts of fun, and the like, then I would put a lot of emphasize on treating her like a princess. Shower her with partial attention and give her a lot of good lovin. 8] The other stance would be if I feel that my relationship has potential to last far beyond the initial attraction and wild sex, I wouldn’t treat my girlfriend like a princess per se.
Of course, I didn’t make myself clear to her afterwards when she asked me that question. I didn’t feel a need. Plus, she had other emotional dilemmas she needed to workout on at the time. Now however, I will answer her more publically on why I wouldn’t treat my mate like a princess if I feel she has potential to be my long term lover and partner.
[“Perfect Silence (Martin Roth St. Kilda 5pm Rmx)” by Blank & Jones]
Basically, I equate treating a woman like a princess along the same wavelength as being spoiled like a superficial brat. I envision snug miniskirts, fuck-me strappy heels, and lots of girly giggles.
However, a long term commitment is about building equality between us. It’s about creating a kingdom together, so we can rule it together. I am her king and she is my queen. Together, we conquer the world. What can princesses offer, that my queen does not? At best, the princess is a concubine. At worst, she’s a gold digger. My queen can be multiple things – a warrior, a lover, a diplomat, a caretaker, a friend, a confidant, a partner.